I am desperately trying to make a realistic candle (once again) but I cannot get it to work

The problem is that there needs to be additional light source INSIDE the candle object to actually see the SSS effect, the light from flame object is not powerful enough. That would not be a problem if it worked as expected but at least I cannot get it to work.
The suspected bug is that there seems to be no way to create light source object inside another object that is SSS. The light object always creates 'shadow' in SSS object, see here: I have tried to move the light source object, the shadow travels with it so it definitely is caused by the light source object.
If I put the light source object above the SSS object then it's outline is visible and creates other weird effects as well in render no matter what settings I tried (opacity 0, unseen check boxes in object etc.).
So please someone tell me what I am doing wrong and how can I make realistic candle with Octane SSS? I know the thread where SSS is explained but this is different problem, I made successful LED using ideas in that thread .
Thank you!
Antti